The Unspoken Rule Of Modern Dating: If Your Tie Isn’t Straight, Then You Don’t Love Her

 The Unspoken Rule Of Modern Dating: If Your Tie Isn’t Straight, Then You Don’t Love Her 

If your tie isn’t straight, if your shoes aren’t set on the rug by the door, if your dishes are left on the counter by the sink, then you don’t love her.

See, it’s always been about the little things.

The smallest gestures that show you love someone. That say silently and unconsciously, she’s on your mind.

When you truly love someone, it fills every crease and crevice of your life. You think of that person, their desires, their wants and needs, and you become tuned into those things because they matter. Because that person matters.

You don’t leave your dishes by the sink because it only takes another minute to rinse them and put them in the dishwasher. You don’t walk around the house with shoes on because you know she appreciates her freshly-vacuumed floors.

You put your tie on straight because that shows you looked in the mirror. That you wanted to make yourself presentable. That you thought of not only yourself, but of her, and desired to look your best, because she’s yours and you’re hers.

And those little things matter when you’re in love.
If your tie isn’t straight, you don’t love her.

It’s not because you’re lazy, or forgetful, or made a mistake. It’s because you overlooked this little thing. Which builds into bigger things, which suddenly becomes an attitude of nonchalance. Of indifference. Of falling out of love.

See, when your tie’s straight, you were purposeful. You were dedicated. You wanted things to be right, even the little things. Because little things matter. Because you love her, and your appearance is a reflection of who you are—your happiness, your confidence, and your representation of two people, not just one.

It sounds stupid, doesn’t it? That a lopsided tie could suddenly landslide into something much bigger. But it’s the principle of it. The idea that you didn’t look in the mirror. Didn’t ask her to give you a once-over. Didn’t lean into her for a good morning, a good afternoon, a goodnight kiss where she would have immediately pulled back, furrowed her eyebrows, and righted that off-kilter tie.

You didn’t think to involve her in this seemingly mundane part of your life. And it turns out, these moments actually matter more than you think.

Maybe it’s stupid, to proclaim that a tie matters so much.

But maybe it isn’t. Maybe modern-day love really is built on those little moments. Built upon the way we lean into one another, and the way we carry ourselves, show ourselves to the world, boldly proclaiming that Yes, my tie is straight. And yes, I am in love. And I’m proud to show it.

7 Positive Things To Embrace About Modern Dating That Will Make It A Little Less Painful

 7 Positive Things To Embrace About Modern Dating That Will Make It A Little Less Painful 

Whether you’ve been ghosted more than once, or have received one too many dick pics on tinder, we can all agree that modern dating can suck a big one, but there’s got to be some way we can see the silver lining. Make modern dating a little less painful by embracing the lighter side of unsolicited dick pics and all other things this digital twist on love has presented us with.

1. More sex.

Who doesn’t want more sex? With the ability to constantly be in contact with basically anyone who’s everyone, we can have a shit ton of sex with whoever we’d like, whenever we’d like. Even if it’s with fuckboi down the street who calls you Sweet Thang, sex is sex, and sometimes we just need it. Luckily, modern dating has taught us there’s an app for that, or a simple three letter text message, ‘U up?’

2. If you never want to talk to someone again, you don’t have to.

When the guy who’s got a sore ego from you not sleeping with him won’t stop texting you, there’s a block for that. Modern dating allows us to shut people out completely, which is great when you want (or desperately need) it to happen. When that girl on tinder won’t stop asking you if you think she’s pretty, there’s a block for that too. We now have the ability to block all the crazies out of our life for
good.

3. There are plenty of fish in the sea.

Quite literally if you’re a member on Plenty Of Fish. With the multitude of dating apps out there, you can now pick exactly what type of person you want to date, from farmers to Christians or whatever else you’re into, there’s an online community waiting for you to dive in. For every person who breaks your heart there’s 100 more online waiting to meet you. Sure, we think we know what we want, and most of the time we’re completely wrong, but our endless options will allow us to learn, and if we never learn then we’ll just keep looking.

4. When you are in love, you can share it with the world.

Ever hate those couples who flaunt their undying love for one another on social media? Well, when you fall in love you have the ability to be one of them. As soon as you lock down a significant other, you can’t help but instagram a cliche couple photo with a heart emoji caption. LOVE is in the air, and it’s also taking over your news feed.

5. When you hate love, you can share it with the world.

The great thing about modern dating? When we are SO fed up with it, that we literally want to punch ourselves in the throat, we can vent about it to the entire world on the internet.

6. We can stalk our exes.

While this can be diabolical to the ‘moving on and letting go‘ process, we always want to see what our exes are up to, luckily now we can. Your inner stalker has finally found relief, with Snapchat, Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter, we can see exactly what and who are exes are doing…until they block you from all of them, but even then, there’s Google.

7. We can plot revenge on our exes (we’ve all thought about it).

That moment you open Snapchat and watch his Story to see him at a bar nearby, and put on that dress that makes your A boobs look like Cs, then you run into him acting like it’s an accident…it’s a mild revenge, but it still feels extremely satisfying, and it’s possible because of modern dating.

101 Tinder Pick Up Lines That Are Way Better Than Just Saying ‘Hi’

 101 Tinder Pick Up Lines That Are Way Better Than Just Saying ‘Hi’ 

1.

You seem awesome and I like awesome people
2.

Tacos sometime? Check yes or no.
3.

What’s the weirdest message you’ve ever gotten on here from someone?
4.

Star Wars or Trek? There is only one right answer.
5.

Are you emotionally unavailable or emotionally damaged?
6.

Be honest. Which member of 1D is your fave?
7.

Hey, I’m looking for a ski-ball partner. You in?
8.

If we vote opposite on November 2nd, can we still be friends?
9.
10.

Know how much a polar bear weighs? Well it’s enough to break the ice. Hi!
11.

My mom told me not to talk to strangers online, but I’ll make an exception for you.
12.

Sorry for all of the gross messages you probably get here 😕
13.

Tell you what I want, what I really want. A) To know, who was your favorite Spice Girl? and B) Your number?
14.

Want to engage in a textually active relationship?
15.
16.

I bet you’re more cool IRL than via URL.
17.

Are you a big spoon, a little spoon, or a “GTFO of my bed I’m TIRED!”?
18.

Are you a little more country or a little more rock n’ roll?
19.

What’s the most embarrassing thing I’ll find if I Google you?
20.

I think you’re attractive and would love to get to know you without a screen involved.
21.

Do you believe in reincarnation? And if so, who/what do you think Chris Farley came back as?
22.

I can’t wait for you mom to say, “He/She could do better…” after meeting me.
23.

Would you have talked to me in middle school, or just stared at me awkwardly from across the cafeteria? No judgement.
24.
25.

I won’t set my phone to silent just in case there’s a chance I’ll hear from you.
26.

🎶Hello…it’s me…🎶

(Do you think Adele regrets that song?)
27.

What sort of opener would get you to talk to me?
28.

Wanna be pen pals?
29.

Dogs or cats? There is only one right answer.
30.

Were you an N’SYNC or a Backstreet Boys fan? How will we raise the kids?
31.

Swear to drunk I’m not God…just intoxicated by you.
32.

You know what would be great? Talking to you.
33.

What was the most random class in college you ever took and secretly were super into?
34.

I’m watching The Notebook and crying and need to be talked off a ledge. Help?
35.

I have a problem. I went grocery shopping and there’s no way I can carry all of these bags inside by myself. Wanna do a stranger a solid? I can wait…
36.

QUICK. Which rom com is your fave?
37.

We can tell our kids that we met because I accidentally stole your yellow umbrella…
38.

Would you rather have toes for fingers or fingers for toes?
39.
40.

I have to be honest, the thought of being around in you in person makes me really nervous but I’m willing to go through it if you’ll go out with me.
41.

In the words of a 2002 Budweiser commercial, wassup?
42.
43.

Which Disney Channel Original Movie is your all time favorite?
44.

Are you a ketchup or mustard kind of guy/girl?
45.

So who/what do you blame your dating profile on?
46.

Drink of choice?
47.

Favorite day of the week?
48.

Which Meryl is the best Meryl?
49.

Which Beyoncé is the best Beyoncé? (Jokes every Bey is perfect.)
50.

I can’t wait for you to talk shit about me to all of your friends.
51.
52.

Team Jennifer or Team Jolie?
53.

Bitch about how terrible online dating is & chill?
54.

Are you Catfishing someone? Just checking…
55.

Want to get dinner sometime? (Yeah, I’m old fashioned.)
56.
57.

What is the best compliment you’ve ever received so I know how to flatter you in the future?
58.

I don’t want to intimidate you but, I made a doctor’s appointment without asking my mom for help this week. No biggie. *slicks hair back*
59.

Need someone to listen to you complain about that bitch from work for an hour?
60.

Fuck, marry, kill. Ellen, Oprah, Chelsea Handler?
61.

If you had been on the Titanic instead of Jack, I bet Rose would have made room for you on the headboard.
62.

Are you more GOT or LOTR?
63.

Did you know that if you hit return a bunch while texting, leave two dashes and a long bracket beneath them, you make a very happy whale? You’re welcome.
64.

I’m writing a book and could use your help. It’s a phone book and it’s missing your number.
65.

Tell me a story.
66.

🤘out with your ⌨ out (message me back plz!)
67.

How long ’till you think we both give up and make a “when we’re 45…” pact with each other?
68.
69.

I seem to have lost my hesitation with talking to strangers online, can I borrow some of yours?
70.

Fuck, marry, kill. Bradley Cooper, Ryan Reynolds, Ryan Gosling?
71.
72.

Real Talk. Who would you want on your team during a zombie apocalypse?
73.

‘Hej’ is ‘Hi’ in Danish. (And you learn something new every day.)
74.

If I ask you to coffee, drinks, or a movie which would you be most likely to say ‘yes’ to?
75.

Favorite pick up line. GO!
76.

Follow me on Instagram? (Jk I just wanted to stalk your selfies)
77.

Look up the symbols for Hydrogen and Iodine and that’s what I have to say to you.
78.

Sup boo (sorry I couldn’t pull that off but it’s nice to unofficially meet you)
79.

What emoji is your spirit emoji?
80.

Your phone has GPS right? Because I’m totally going to get lost in those *insert color here* eyes.
81.

You look like you’d be fun to sit next to in bed with while we both stare at our phones.
82.

I didn’t sleep all night because I couldn’t stop thinking about whether or not you’d messaged me back!
83.

What’s up buttercup
84.

Can we be friends?
85.
86.

u up? (…to have actually stimulating conversation because I am!)
87.

What’s something no one would guess about you from a first impression?
88.

I can Google how to say Hi in like, 101 languages. Wanna see?
89.

You seem cool. Wanna get to know each other?
90.

Do you know how I can get verified on Twitter? Asking for a friend…
91.

If you come across someone you know on Tinder, what’s your protocol? Left or right?
92.

I’m bored, help me out?
93.

If you were a booger I’d pick you first.
94.

Are you a Kelly, a Michelle, or a Beyoncé?
95.

Let’s go do something fun.
96.

Want to go get drunk and make some bad decisions?
97.

If I say just hi with a smiley face, will you ignore me?
98.

You seem really funny and I like people who make me laugh.
99.
100.

Want to go talk about where we went to college and what we “do” over overpriced beer?
101.

A list on the internet told me saying hi was boring, but I still want to say hi to you. So…hi.

LeBron James’s Greatest Quotes

LeBron James’s Greatest Quotes

Here are 26 of Lebron’s greatest quotes that will elevate your motivation:

1. “I think, team first. It allows me to succeed, it allows my team to succeed.”

2. “You have to be able to accept failure to get better.”

3. “I don’t need too much. Glamour and all that stuff don’t excite me. I am just glad I have the game of basketball in my life.”

4. “There’s that moment every morning when you look in the mirror: Are you committed, or are you not?”


6. “Every night on the court I give my all, and if I’m not giving 100 percent, I criticize myself.”

7. “Commitment is a big part of what I am and what I believe. How committed are you to winning? How committed are you to being a good friend?”

8. “I always say, decisions I make, I live with them. There’s always ways you can correct them or ways you can do them better. At the end of the day, I live with them.”

9. “Warren Buffet told me, follow your gut. When you have that gut feeling, you have to go with it don’t go back on it.”

10. “Ask me to play, I’ll play. Ask me to shoot, I’ll shoot. Ask me to pass, I’ll pass. Ask me to steal, block out, sacrifice, lead, dominate. Anything! But it’s not just what you ask of me. It’s what I ask of myself.”

11. “I mean, when you grow up in the inner city and you grow up in a single-parent household, that’s – those are humbling times, you know?”

12. “Greatness is defined by how much you want to put into what you do.”

13. “Everywhere I’ve been, I’ve been the best player. I love being a leader, and I love being the best. I just want to get better. It’s not about being cocky or selfish or anything like that. It’s just how I am.”

14. “Once you become a professional athlete or once you do anything well, then you’re automatically a role model. I have no problem being a role model. I love it. I have kids looking up to me and hopefully I inspire these kids to do good things.”

15. “I’ve always been a leader. I’ve always kind of been the tallest person on the team when I was younger but always kind of the smartest. I was ahead of my time. I wasn’t always the oldest, I kind of was the youngest on the team, but, I kind of knew what to do at times.”

16. “I hear that word pressure all the time. There is a lot of pressure put on me, but I don’t put a lot of pressure on myself. I feel if I play my game, it will take care of itself.”

17. “In the next 15 or 20 years, I hope I’ll be the richest man in the world. That’s one of my goals. I want to be a billionaire. I want to get to a position where generation on generation don’t have to worry about nothing.”

18. “It’s hard to win in the league, because every team is good, they got players on their team. A lot harder than high school. It’s competitive, and that’s what I most love about it.”

19. “Sometimes in the past when I played something might make me lose focus, or I would go home after a game where I thought I could have played better and I would let it hang over my head for a long time when it shouldn’t. But now, being a parent, I go home and see my son and I forget about any mistake I ever made or the reason I’m upset. I get home and my son is smiling or he comes running to me. It has just made me grow as an individual and grow as a man.”


21. “I like criticism. It makes you strong.”

22. “Ever since I was a kid, I was always the winner.”

23. “To be honest, the play that was drawn up, I scratched it. I just told coach, ‘Give me the ball.’ We’re either going to go to overtime or I’m going to win it for us. It was that simple.”

24. “I feel confident because I’m the best player in the world. It’s that simple.”

25. “If you put everything together as far as my mind, my body, my game. If you put everything in one bottle, this is probably the best I’ve been.”

26. “When I have a bad game, it continues to humble me and know that, you know, you still have work to do and you still have a lot of people to impress.”

16 Things You Should Finally Learn To Let Go Of In Your Mid-Twenties

 16 Things You Should Finally Learn To Let Go Of In Your Mid-Twenties 

1.

The idea that there is just one perfect person out there who exists solely to be with you, instead of several potential partners you could possibly make a life with.
2.

The urge to apologize for things you know you don’t need to apologize for.
3.

The belief that finding a career where you can ‘do what you love’ means that you won’t ever have to do any hard work.
4.

The way of thinking we’ve all grown accustomed to in which we are convinced that we can find out everything we’ll ever need to know about someone simply by using the phone in our hands.
5.

The idea that a fun, relaxing weekend always needs to include a ton of social activities with every single person you know.
6.

The desire to compete with everyone around you for the ‘ideal life’ instead of simply focusing on yourself and what it is that would truly make you happy.
7.

The instinctive tendency to hold yourself back or play aloof when you finally meet someone you like, because you’ve been told that these games are what is ‘normal’ in the dating world.
8.

The belief that hard work alone makes you deserving of any raise, promotion, or job that you want.
9.

The belief that you need to explain yourself and your life choices to every single person that questions you or doubts you.
10.

The idea that saying ‘thank you’ is a waste of time.
11.

The (typically subconscious) belief that you should only be kind to someone if it will benefit you in some way.
12.

The rationalizations you’ve made with yourself over how your body will always be able to bounce back from repeated poor behaviors like over-drinking and unhealthy eating.
13.

The belief that if a friendship naturally fizzles out, it automatically means that you’re a bad person or friend.
14.

The idea that you’ll always be capable of changing anyone and everyone for the better.
15.

The belief that the things happening in the worlds far away from yours are not your responsibility.
16.

The idea that it’s always too late for a newly discovered dream.

This Is What Loving You Is Like

 This Is What Loving You Is Like 

like slipping into satin panties,
like when April showers finally do bring May flowers,
like honey dripping down my throat,
like the moon tucking me in with a bedtime story,
like never being late anywhere again,
like suddenly remembering it’s payday,
like my dad giving a thumbs up to me from across the street,
like my mother announcing after 48 years she’s finally pain free, like lavender scented candles and string lights fastened to every corner of the universe,
like humming my favorite song,
like discovering an episode of Buffy I’ve never seen,
like all the good, all the good,
my darling, it’s all the good,
there’s just so much good here.